"I’m going to hazard a guess that this geek dating tactic [Extremely Transparent Courtship] helps explain why so many people into BDSM are also nerds. After all, BDSM is a method of sharing eroticism that has countless rituals of consent, and often involves planning exactly which acts you’ll engage in.What could be geekier than making a list of all the things you’re going to do to get off with each other, and then doing them? It’s basically like generating a hypothesis and then carrying out experiments to see if the hypothesis is correct. Or, in this case, whether the hypothesis is insanely hot and awesome."

http://io9.com/5928739/the-secrets-of-geek-mating-rituals